How Do You Pick Your Spouse?

Scripture 2:18-21
Application: Go in groups, expect nothing, and take words for what they are!

Myths About Relationships:
1. Relationships are meant to be experienced? WRONG. -God did not
designed you to be with more than one women/man.
2. Relationships should be about you and the other person, and some of
Jesus? WRONG -God must be at the center not a piece, but the center.
3. Relationships are here to get to know someone? WRONG -Relationships
are intimate commitments. Why commit to someone you don’t know.
4. Relationships with non-believers are ok? WRONG -You do not serve
the same master nor should have the same mind. You shouldn’t be able
to agree.
5. Relationships are not marriage therefore they should be viewed as
short term. WRONG -Relationships are very serious and long term.

Some of us are looking for specific qualities (which is good), but most of us are looking for specific people hoping they have those
specific qualities. At the end of most relationships the common understanding is “they did not meet all the requirement I had expected.”-the problem is that most of us can’t accept who is in the mirror so why do we think we can find fullness (everything expected) in someone else. We are a broken people
in a broken world. We are horrible at picking someone.

Adan in Gen 2 had not “falling into sin” yet. He had right communion with God. His concern for a spouse was not existing. In verse 18 we see that God was talking to Himself. ( 18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”) He was not talking to Adam. It did not say “I will make a helper for you”. Adam was unaware of a problem. Adam was not complaining about being lonely. In verse 19 Adam named the animals. He was not looking for a partner of soul mate. He was doing what God commanded him to do. Still unaware he needed a spouse. Then In verse
21 God put him to sleep. Again let me reiterate, not once did Adam ask for or push in anyway a relationship or concern for a spouse in these verses. God put Adam to sleep. So you have a man being obedient to God’s commands totally oblivious and then he falls asleep. He was not apart of the picking process for a wife.

Adam had nothing to say about a spouse. It was God who thought it was neccessary, not Adam.

So, how do you pick your spouse? You don’t. You follow God and let Him move in your life and draw you to a point of obvious commitment for another.

Relationships are about a solid foundation of commitment. Relationships are the second biggest decision you will make and the purest way to show God’s relationship with His bride, to think of it any less is missing its purpose and design.

A good sign: When others start asking you if she/he is the one instead of you asking others if she is the one.

Questions:
1. How have you seen relationships treated by other? By Yourself?

2.Why do think people have more than one relationship?

3. How hard is it to wait?

4. If waiting was God’s plan would you be OK with that?

5.Hould you be preparing for your wife or worrying about is she/he likes you today?

6. Where does God fit in in your past and future relationship(s)?

7. Is it too hard to be an Adam today?